The story of Shuraih al-Qadhi with his wife

This is Syuraih al-Qadhi with his wife. Syuraih was a tabi’in appointed by Umar bin Khattab to be a judge’s official in the area of the Islamic Caliphate.

After Syuraih (a tabi’in) married a woman from the Tamim tribe, she said to Sya’bi (a tabi’in), “O Sya’bi married a woman from the Tamim because they were women.”

Sya’bi asked, “How is that?”

Shuraih told me, “I passed the village of the children of Tamim. I saw a woman sitting on a mat, in front of her sat a beautiful young woman. I ask for a drink to him. “

The woman said to me, “What drink do you like?”

I replied, “Sober.”

The woman said, “Give him milk. I suspect he’s a stranger. “

Shuraih said, “After drinking I saw the young woman. I admire him. I asked his mother about the woman. “

The mother replied, “My child.”

I asked, “Who?” (Who is his father and how he came from).

The woman replied, “Zaenab binti Hadhir from the children of Hanzhalah.”

I asked, “Is he empty or filled?” (Meaning to be married or not).

The woman replied, “Blank.”

I asked, “Are you willing to marry me to him?”

The woman replied, “Yes, if you are kufu ‘(worth it).

I left her to go home to take a nap, but I couldn’t sleep. After praying, I invited a number of my brothers from among respectable people. I pray ashar with them. Apparently his uncle was waiting.

His uncle asked, “O Abu Umayyah, what is your need?”

I explained my wishes, then she married me. People congratulate me, then the program is over. Once I got home I immediately regretted it. I said to myself, “I have married the most violent and violent Arab family.” I remember the women of the Tamimites and they were hard-hearted.

I intend to divorce him, then I change my mind. Don’t be accused first, if it’s good. If not, then it will be done.

How many days after that the women of Tamim came to deliver it to me. When he was seated at home, I said to him, “My wife, including the sunnah, if a man is united with his wife to pray two rak’ahs and so is he.”

I stand in prayer, then I look back, it turns out he is also praying. After the prayer, the servants prepared my clothes and put on a robe dipped in za’faran oil.

When the house is quiet, I approach it. I reached out to him. He said, “Stay where you are.”

I said to myself, “A calamity has come upon me.” I praise God and recite the prayer to the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alaihi wa sallam.

He said, “I am an Arab woman. For the sake of Allah, I did not step except for things which Allah favored. And you are a strange man, I don’t know the morals of your personality. Say what you like, so I can do it. Say what you hate, so I can get away from it. “

I said to him, “I like this and this (I call words, deeds, and foods that I like) and also hate this and this.”

He asked, “Explain to me about your relatives. Do you want them to visit you? “

I replied, “I am a judge. I don’t want them to saturate me. “

I went through a night full of pleasure. I stayed with him for three days. Then I went to the court assembly (started working again). There was no day that I passed without goodness from him.

One year later (after our marriage), when I returned home, I saw an old woman who ruled and banned, it turned out that it was my mother-in-law.

I said to my mother-in-law, “Welcome.”

Mother-in-law said, “O Abu Umayyah, how are you?”

I replied, “Fine, thank God.”

Mother-in-law asked, “How is your wife?”

I replied, “The best woman and pleasant friend. Mother has educated her well and taught her character well to her. “

Mother-in-law said, “A woman is not seen in a situation where her behavior is the worst except in two circumstances. If she has obtained a place beside her husband and if she has given birth to a child. If you see something that makes you angry from him, then beat (with a guiding punch, not imprint). Because men don’t get bad at their homes except for stupid and spoiled women. “

Shuraih said, “Once a year my mother-in-law arrives, she comes home after asking me, mu What do you think if your relatives want to visit you?” I answered, “Whatever they like.”

Twenty years I was with him. I never hurt her or was angry with her.

Lessons from the story:

A man must be religious and firm in religion.
A man must get married quickly if his heart has loved a woman, because it is feared he will be slandered.
Choosing a woman as a wife and researching her family before marriage.
Put your trust in God, not afraid to face the future and optimistic about the success of marriage.
Use the means of dialogue and gentle attitudes towards the wife, especially at the beginning of marriage to realize mutual love between husband and wife and eliminate the fear of a girl.
Husbands and wives should pay attention to their appearance, so that their love will remain lasting and both will be protected from things that are forbidden to tempt the eyes and heart.
Important matter: A woman must have clear reason, because it helps understanding and balancing her husband in everything that is in accordance with his moral character.
Husbands and wives should understand each other since the life of husband and wife began. Because it can create peace, tranquility, avoid problems and disputes. And that can be achieved if the husband explains to his wife about:
Bad qualities that a wife does not want to have.
Behaviors that are not liked by women in general, so that the wife avoid them as much as possible.
Anyone from his friends can relate to him, whether from family, neighbors or friends. Husband has full rights in determining who may enter his house and who is visited by his wife or related to him.
The wife should try to cook her husband’s favorite food and stay away from what she doesn’t like. Wear the color that he likes and stay away from what he hates. Because the wife is dressed for her husband and that includes dressing a woman for her husband.
Wives should pay attention to the husband’s speech as well as possible. That will help him understand and understand his intentions so that he can fulfill his orders properly.
The obligation of the wife to obey the husband in each of his orders, without denying, as long as the husband does not order him to intercede with Allah’s commands Tabaraka wa Ta’ala and His Messenger sallallaah aih alaihi wa sallam.
The wife’s family has a position and respect from the husband’s side. It’s just that this is not an excuse that allows them to visit their child without their permission and pleasure. Therefore, the wife should know the extent of the husband’s willingness to receive a visit from one of his family in her husband’s house. The case does not require questions, intelligent people can understand, even if they are not forthright. Because some wives are angry if their husbands expressly express their objections to the entry of one of their families. The husband came home to find peace in his house, he harbored this because he was afraid of his wife’s anger. Husband is silent, but he is depressed. This clearly affected the harmony of husband and wife relations and was the cause of the dispute between the two of them after visiting relatives.
A pious mother and a successful educator woman, her influence left an impression on her daughter. A mother tries to make her daughter’s household lasting and successful. Because it includes an important obligation after the child moves to her husband’s house, the mother does not participate in her daughter’s household except in an emergency and in order to achieve the goodness of the husband-wife relationship. In this case, the mother must avoid feelings that are not appropriate in every dispute she hears from the marriage of her child.
The threat of hitting is not automatically used in improving husband and wife relations.
A woman who graduates from home who educates her well with noble values and understandings can help build a healthy and peaceful home life.
If a husband and wife behave as described, surely both of them will enjoy the happiness of a happy household. The wife does not see things that pollute her happiness. Husband is happy with his wife who is pious and can make him happy.
Husbands should not indulge their wives and seek out excesses. Because if a woman sees her position and position on the side of her husband so spoiled, surely she will be proud and arrogant, and maybe make her ignored the words of a husband who is angry at him for his mistakes. Husbands should be able to arrange their feelings to their wives well.
A happy husband at home will also succeed in his work.
This is a guideline that must be understood and understood well by a woman, as a light in her life. Devote well to your husband, surely you are happy and get a husband who is happy and successful in his work.

Al-Hasan al-Bashri’s advice to Umar bin Abdul Aziz

The following is the advice of al-Hasan al-Basri to Umar bin Abdul Aziz, one of the pious caliphs of the Umayyads. Al-Hasan advised him about the nature of the world, because it could be someone who is pious even when he holds the highest authority and he needs advice that reminds him. Moreover, the position held by Umar was a very large position, because he was one of the kings who held the largest area in the world. The temptation, ambition, slander of the world, and the desire to enjoy it can appear at that time.

Al-Hasan al-Basri wrote a letter to Umar bin Abdul Aziz, the contents of the letter explaining the nature of the world. The text of the letter is as follows:

Amma ba’du … O Amirul Mukminin, actually the world is a stopover house and the displacement is not a permanent residence.

Adam was revealed to the world from heaven as a punishment for it, so be careful. Indeed, those who desire the world will abandon it, the rich people in the world are poor people (compared to the hereafter), happy people of the world are people who are not excessive in it. If someone who is intelligent again cleverly observes it, then he sees him humiliating the one who glorifies him, scatters those who gather him. The world is like poison, whoever does not know it will eat it, whoever does not know it will be ambitious to him, even though, for God’s sake it is the place of destruction.

O Amirul Mukminin, be like someone who is treating his wound, he endures a moment of pain because he does not want to endure long suffering. Patience over world suffering is lighter than taking the test. Smart people are people who are careful of the temptations of the world. The world is like a bride, spies look at her, hearts are entangled with her, to her, for the sake of the One who sent Muhammad with the truth, is the murderer for who marries her.

O Amir al-mu’minin, be careful of the traps of destruction, watch out for the ugliness. Its prosperity continues with misery and suffering, permanence leads to destruction and mortality. Know O Amir al-mu’minin, that his imagination is false, his hopes are vanity, his clarity is murky, his life is suffering, the people who leave him are people who are guided by Taufik, and those who hold on to him are wretched lago drowning. The smarter clever people are those who are afraid of what Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala has created to cause fear, be aware of what Allah has warned, run away from mortal homes to eternal homes, this belief will be felt when death approaches.

The world O Amirul Mukminin, is a house of punishment, who does not have the intelligence to collect for him, who is not knowledgeable about him will be fooled, while a person who is more intelligent is a person who lives in the world like a person who treats his pain hoping for recovery, he is afraid of the bad consequences of the afterlife.

World O Amir al-mu’minin, for Allah’s sake only dreams, while Hereafter is real, between them is death. The servants are in a dream that wears away, verily I say unto you O Amir al-mu’minin what a wise man says,

‘If you are safe, then you will survive the great riots. If not, then I don’t think you will be safe. ‘

When the letter of al-Hasan al-Basri arrived at the hands of Umar bin Abdul Aziz, he cried heartily so that the people around him felt sorry for him. Umar said, “May Allah bless al-Hasan al-Basri, he continues to wake us from sleep and remind us of negligence. It’s really amazing, he is a loving man towards us (leader), he is so sincere to us. He is a counselor who is very honest and very fluent in his language. “

Umar bin Abdul Aziz replied to Surat al-Hasan by saying:

“Your valuable advice has come to me, I treat myself with that advice. You explain the world with its essential qualities, smart people are people who are always careful of the world, as if the people who have been determined to die are dead. Wassalamu’alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuh. “

When Umar’s reply arrived at al-Hasan’s hand, he said, “Amir al-mu’minin is truly amazing, a man who speaks the truth and receives advice. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala has glorified his blessings with his leadership, blessed the people with their power, making them mercy and blessings.

Al-Hasan al-Basri wrote a little more message to Umar bin Abdul Aziz by saying:

“Amma ba’du, actually great fear and the case sought are in front of you, and you will surely witness it, congratulations or wounds.” (Az-Zuhd, al-Hasan al-Bashri, p.169).

The story of the appointment of Umar bin Abdul Aziz to become Caliphate

Among the virtues of Sulaimana bin Abdul Malik is that he is pleased to receive advice from a fiqh expert, Raja ‘bin Haiwah al-Kindi, who proposed when Sulaiman was sick and eventually died, to appoint Umar bin Abdul Aziz as his successor. Finally, Sulaiman established a will which did not give any gap to the devil at all (Ashr ad-Daulatain al-Umawiyah wa al-Abbasiyah, p. 37). Ibn Sirin said, “May Allah bless Sulaiman, he began his Caliphate by reviving prayer and ending it by appointing Umar bin Abdul Aziz as his successor.”

The Caliph of Solomon died in 99H, Umar bin Abdul Aziz pronounced his body, written in his stamp, “I have faith in Allah with sincerity.” (Siyar A’lam Nubala, 5: 11-12).

There are several histories about the appointment of Umar bin Abdul Aziz as caliph. Among these narrations are those narrated by Ibn Sa’ad in the Thabaqat of Suhail bin Abu Suhail, he said, I heard King ‘bin Haiwah said, “On Friday, Sulaiman bin Abdul Malik wore a green shirt from wool , he reflected and said, ‘I am the young king’. Then he went out to perform Friday prayers with the people, he immediately got sick when he returned home, when he got sick he wrote a will for his son Ayyub. Ayyub is an immature child, I said to him, yang What did you do O Amir al-mu’minin? Among the kindness of someone who flows to his grave is that he raises pious people afterward. ‘ Solomon said, ini This will, I am still berarahharah to Allah, still considering, and have not decided with certainty. ‘

One or two days after that Solomon burned the letter, then he invited me. He asked, ‘What do you think about Dawud bin Sulaiman?’ I replied, ‘He is in Constantinople, you yourself do not know he is alive or dead’. Sulaiman asked, ‘Who do you think is O King’? ‘I replied,’ It is up to you O Amir al-mu’minin ‘. I said so because I was still considering myself. Sulaiman said, mu What do you think Umar bin Abdul Aziz? ’I replied, Allah For God’s sake, I know that he is the main man, the Muslim choice’. Solomon said, ‘Yes, he is the person, but if I appoint him and do not appoint any of the sons of Abdul Malik, then it can trigger division, they will not let him lead forever, unless I appoint someone from them after Umar . I will appoint Yazid bin Abdul Malik after Umar. – At that time Yazid was not in place, he became Amirul Haj – That would make Abdul Malik’s children calm and accepting. ‘ I said, ‘It’s up to you.’

Sulaiman bin Abdul Malik wrote his hand letter, ‘In the name of Allah, the Most Merciful, Most Merciful. This is the will of Sulaiman bin Abdul Malik, Amir al-mu’minin, to Umar bin Abdul Aziz. Indeed, I gave the Caliphate to him after me and afterwards to Yazid bin Abdul Malik, listen and obey, fear Allah, do not quarrel, because your enemies will hope to defeat you. ‘ Then Solomon stamped the letter.

Sulaiman then asked Ka’ab bin Hamid, head of the caliph’s guards, to gather his family. Ka’ab implement and collect them. After they gathered, Solomon said to Raja ‘, bring my will to them, tell them that this is my will, ask them to pledge to the person I’m pointing to.’ The King carried it out, when the King delivered this, they said, ‘We listen and obey who is listed in it’. They said, kami Can we meet Amir al-mu’minin to say hello? ‘Raja’ answered, ‘Please.’ They entered, Solomon said to them, ‘That is my will, -Sulaiman refers to the letter in the King’s hand’ and they see the letter- That is my last message, listen, obey and obey the person I mentioned by name in the will ‘ Raja ‘said,’ Then they pledged one by one ‘. Then Raja ‘brings the stamped letter out’. “

The king said, “When they left that place, Umar came to me, he said, ‘O Abu al-Miqdam, indeed Solomon is very respectful and affectionate to me, he is gentle and kind, I am afraid he will hand over some of these things to me ask you in the name of Allah then with honor and love, so that you tell me if the case is so, so that I can resign at this time before the coming of a situation where I am unable to change it again ‘. Raja ‘replied,’ Not for the sake of Allah, I will not preach one letter to you ‘. So Umar left irritably. “

Raja ‘said, “Hisham bin Abdul Malik met me and said,” Surely between myself and yourself there is a good relationship and long love, I also know thank you, tell me am I the person mentioned in the letter? If I am the person, then I know. If someone else, then I will speak, someone like me is not worthy of being underestimated, this kind of thing is not worthy of being kept away from someone like me, tell me. I promise that God’s name to you will not mention your name forever ‘. “

Raja ‘said, “I refused Hisham’s request, I said,” Not for Allah’s sake, I will not open a single letter to you from what Sulaiman has kept secret to me.’ Hisham left while clapping one hand in the other, he said, ‘To whom was this case handed over if not to me, were we considered not the son of Abdul Malik? For God’s sake, actually I am the real Bani Abdul Malik’s son. ‘

The king said, “I met Sulayman bin Abdul Malik, it turned out he was dead, but I still found moments of his death sacred, every time he faced him, then I faced him towards the Qibla, Solomon said with a hiccup, ‘O king’ , the time hasn’t come yet. ‘ Until I repeated it twice, at the third time Solomon said, ‘Now O King’, if you want something, then I testify that there is no worship other than Allah and that Muhammad is His servant and messenger ‘. “

Raja ‘said, “So I confronted him in the direction of Qibla, and Solomon died. I closed his eyes, I covered him with a green cloth, I closed the door, his wife sent an envoy to ask permission to see the situation, I said to him, ‘He has slept and is covered in blankets’. The envoy had seen Solomon clothed with cloth, he went home to tell his wife, his wife was calm because he thought that Solomon was sleeping. “

Raja ‘said, “I asked someone I trusted to stand at the door, I told him not to leave until I myself came to him and did not allow anyone to enter to meet the caliph. Then I called Ka’ab bin Hamid al-Ansi, I asked him to gather the Amir al-mu’minin family, they gathered at the Dabiq mosque, I said to them, ‘Bless you’. They answered, “We have taken a pledge, now pledge allegiance again?” One by one they pledged for the second time. “

Raja ‘said, “When they were willing to pledge allegiance for the second time, then I was sure that I had arranged this business as well as possible, I said,” See the Caliph Sulaiman, because he has died’. They said, ‘Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi rajiun’. Then I read the contents of Solomon’s will, when I mentioned the name Umar bin Abdul Aziz, Hisham said, “We will not pledge allegiance forever.” Raja ’said,‘ By Allah, I will cut off your neck, stand up and pledge allegiance ‘. Then Hisham stood up by “dragging” his legs.

The King continued, “I held the shoulder of Umar bin Abdul Aziz, I sat him on the pulpit, while Umar bin Abdul Aziz said,” Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi rajiun. ” He regretted what he got. While Hisham also said the same words because he was not appointed by Sulaiman bin Abdul Malik as his successor. Hisham met Umar bin Abdul Aziz, he said, ‘Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi rajiun’. Because the Caliphate had changed hands from Abdul Malik’s children to Umar bin Abdul Aziz. So Umar answered, ‘Yes, Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi rajiun’. Because the case came to his hand even though he didn’t like it. “(Tabari, 7: 445).

Abu al-Hasan an-Nadawi said about the King’s attitude, “Raja” has done a great service that Islam will not forget. I do not know a man among the king’s friends and people, who can benefit (with closeness and position) like the benefits given by the King. (Rijal al-Fikr wa ad-Da’wah, 1: 40).

Umar climbed the pulpit, and in the first face-to-face meeting with the people, he said, “The congregation, in fact I have been tested with this case, without being asked for opinion, never questioned and there was no discussion with the Muslims. I have canceled the allegiance for me, now choose someone to lead you. “People simultaneously replied,” O Amirul Mukminin, we have chosen you, we accept you, please lead us with kindness and blessing. “

At that time Umar felt that he could not escape the responsibility of the Caliph, so Umar added his words to explain his policies in organizing Muslims (Umar bin Abdul Aziz wa Siyasatuhu fi Radd al-Mazhalim, p. 102), “Amma ba’du, there are no more prophets after your prophet, no book other than the book was revealed to him. Know that what Allah forbids is lawful until the Day of Judgment. I am not a judge, I am only an executor, and I am not a doer but I am a follower of the Sunnah. There is no right for anyone to obey in disobedience. Know it I’m not the best person among you, I’m just a man part of you, only Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala gives me a heavier burden than you.

Muslims, who approached me, should approach with five cases, if not, then do not approach: First, complain about the intention of people who are not able to complain, secondly, help me in kindness as far as his ability, third, show the way to me as I am prosecuted to walk the road, fourth, do not make fun of the people, and fifth, do not deny me in matters that are not his business.

I intend to you that you fear Allah, because piety to Allah has a good effect on everything, and there is no good if there is no fear. Bless for your afterlife, for those who do good deeds for the Hereafter, surely Allah will provide for his world. Repair (guard) the secret (which is in you), may Allah correct what is seen from your (deeds). Expand remembering death, prepare well before death approaches you, because death is a destroyer of pleasure. Surely this people do not disagree about their Lord, not about the Prophet, not about the Book, but this people are at odds because of the dinars and dirhams. Indeed, I, for the sake of Allah, will not give a vanity to someone and will not hinder someone’s right. “

Then Umar raised his voice so that people would hear, “The congregation, whoever obeys Allah, is obliged to obey and whoever disobeys Allah, it is not obligatory to obey him in this matter. Obey me as long as I (command to) obey God, but if (my command) disobey Him, then you must not obey it … “then Umar came down from the pulpit.

Such was the procession of the appointment of Umar bin Abdul Aziz to become the caliph of the Muslim community, one of the caliphs of the Umawi State. He was appointed on Friday, 11 Shafar 99 H (al-Bidayah wa an-Nihayah, 12: 667).

5 Sex Lubricant Products that Endanger the Vagina

When aroused, it is normal for women to experience a wet vagina. But, some women can also have vaginal dryness when excited. Dry vagina can cause sex to be an unpleasant experience. It’s time for lubricants, aka sex lubricants, to be your savior on the bed.

Sex lubricants serve to wet vaginal tissues and vulva to mimic and enhance the body’s natural lubricating effects, and allow women to have friction-free sex. Some lubricants can also stimulate arousal and increase sexual pleasure. Some others double as sperm killers.

But be careful, wrong, your sex lubricant products can destroy the natural salt and pH balance of the vagina and make you at high risk of contracting bacterial vaginosis or vaginal fungus. Here is a short list of some chemicals that should be avoided in your sex lubricant

Hazardous chemicals in sex lubricants that can threaten vaginal health
1. Glycerin
Glycerin, sugar alcohol, functions to increase the viscosity of the lubricant. Glycerin is a moisture guard agent that absorbs water from a substance, so the presence of glycerin in sex lubricant products will cause the liquid texture of the lubricant to become thicker and stickier.

High glycerin levels in lubricants are not a good sign. Too much sugar alcohol can increase candida colonies, which can lead to vaginal yeast infections and urinary tract infections in women who are susceptible to this disease.

2. Petrochemicals – propylene glycol, polyethylene glycol, and petroleum
Most oil-based lubricants or functions are made with basic petrochemicals, which are chemicals derived from petroleum.

Actually, there is no need to really use a type of heater. The sexual arousal that you receive from stimulation can cause swelling and natural warming of the sexual organs, so you no longer need to add chemicals in the vagina to make it heat burning. In addition, sex lubricants that contain petrochemicals can coat your skin so that it disrupts the normal function and absorption of the liquid. Propylene glycol, in particular, can cause vaginal tissue irritation.

This type of lubricant may also contain foreign particles that are suspected of having links to various health conditions, including cancer. Petroleum base material can be found in many common multipurpose lubricants, such as petroleum jelly.

3. Preservatives – parabens, benzyl alcohol, phenoxyethanol, and citric acid
Many people have had bad experiences with sex lubricants that make the skin heat or cause itchy rashes, or feel really sticky during or after use, and that is caused by preservatives.

Parabens and phenoxyethanol are synthetic preservatives intended to kill germs. This preservative is quite dangerous because it can be easily absorbed into the body and mimic estrogen in your body. High concentrations of these preservatives have been linked to skin irritation, poisoning, reproductive damage, immune attenuation, and reduced nervous system function in newborns. Parabens, in particular, may be associated with an increased risk of breast cancer.

4. Benzocaine
Benzocaine is a local anesthetic that can numb the affected area, and is commonly found in lubricants that target anal sex or other experimental sex. Benzocaine in your sex lubricant signals danger. Pain is important to us, because this is the way the body warns you to stop when you feel a threat. If you become numb and continue with this painful sex, you can end up having an injury, experiencing a tear in the vaginal smooth tissue, and other problems.

5. Spermasida nonoxynol-9 (N-9)
Research has shown that N-9 can cause injury. Wounds can appear in the vaginal canal, in the anus, and on the penis. Because open wounds will expose body fluids, such as blood, there is an increased risk of transmission of HIV and other sexually transmitted diseases from sex lubricants that contain spermicide. Spermicide lubricants are also not recommended for use during anal sex.

Spermicides also disrupt the normal bacterial population in the vagina and urethra. There is an increased risk for women to contract urinary tract infections when using sex lubricants containing spermicide.

Then, what sex lubricants are good to use?
When buying sex lubricants, consider choosing organic products, specially formulated to not cause irritation because receptive mucous membranes in the vagina and vulva easily absorb lubricating ingredients into the body.

“The best sex lubricant is an iso-osmotic type, meaning that the product matches the conditions in the vagina – does not add or reduce water from tissue cells or interfere with healthy vaginal bacteria,” said Wendy Strgar, founder of Good Clean Love, a sexual health company , reported by Prevention.

Over the years, health experts have warned the public to avoid using oil-based lubricants. Oil is destructive to latex rubber, causing the condom to tear quickly. Only silicone and water based lubricants are safe to use with latex condoms. What’s more, there is no point in using body lotion, petroleum jelly, or cooking oil as an “alternative” sex lubricant. Oil is not intended to be inserted into a person’s vagina or rectum….

16 Dangers of Nicotine in the Body, Can Cause Erectile Disfunction!

The danger of nicotine greatly influences and changes brain function in the body. Nicotine makes the smoker feel relaxed and then feel more energetic and excited, or vice versa. This nicotine effect is commonly known as the biphase effect. The danger is, the more often someone smokes, the more they feel addicted and also the dose that will be used.

Nicotine will enter the body through the lungs and alveoli in active smokers and passive smokers. Alveoli is part of the lungs, where oxygen is exchanged with carbon dioxide in the breathing process. When cigarette smoke is inhaled into the lungs, nicotine moves through the alveoli into the bloodstream, and in 15 seconds, is transported throughout the body and brain.

Dangers of Nicotine in the Body
Inhaled cigarette smoke also has a negative effect on the body: Carbon monoxide in cigarette smoke has the potential to damage the lungs and arterial walls, thereby increasing the potential for heart attacks, strokes, and blood clots. Smoking also changes skin, teeth, and hair to look older. Smoking also affects everything from fertility, heart strength, to your bones.

Here are the complete dangers of nicotine which can interfere with the health of the body:

1. Causes uneven skin tone
The danger of nicotine cigarettes can chronically reduce skin oxygen and its nutrients. Some smokers look pale, while others develop uneven skin tone. This change began at a young age, according to dermatologist Jonette Keri, MD, from the University of Miami Miller School of Medicine. In young people who do not smoke, usually uneven skin color is not seen, but this develops faster in people who smoke.

2. Sagging skin
There are more than 4,000 chemicals in cigarette smoke, and the danger of nicotine triggers the destruction of collagen and elastin. This is a fiber that makes your skin strong and elastic. Active smokers or even passive smokers can reduce “skin building blocks.” The consequences include causing sagging skin and deeper skin wrinkles.

3. Her arms and breasts are loose
Smoking not only damages the appearance of the face, but can also affect other parts of the body. When the skin loses its elasticity, the parts that were once tight may begin to relax. This includes the inner arm and breast. Researchers have identified smoking as the main cause of sagging breasts.

4. Wrinkled lips
The effects of nicotine from smoking can slowly affect around your mouth. First, it causes lip wrinkles. Smokers use certain muscles around the lips which cause dynamic wrinkles. Second, the skin loses its elasticity. Together, these factors can cause deep lines around the lips.

5. Skin spots
Age spots are darker patches of skin that are common on the face and hands. While some people can develop these spots because they are exposed too often to sunlight, research shows that smokers are more vulnerable.

6. The teeth and gums are damaged
Yellow teeth are one of the most frequent effects of nicotine from long-term smoking, but tooth decay doesn’t stop there. People who smoke tend to develop gum disease, persistent shortness of breath, and other oral hygiene problems. Smokers are twice as likely to experience toothless teeth.

7. Stained fingers
If you already smoke, pay attention to the nails and skin of your hands. The nicotine effect of cigarettes can stain the skin, nails, and teeth. The good news is that these stains tend to fade when you stop smoking.

8. Hair loss
Both men and women tend to develop thinner hair or fall with age, and smoking can accelerate hair loss. Some studies even show that people who smoke are more likely to experience baldness. Researchers in Taiwan have identified smoking as a clear risk factor for baldness in Asian men.

9. Cataracts
Even the eyes are vulnerable to nicotine. Smoking makes you more likely to develop cataracts as you age. The eye becomes an area that is often exposed to cigarette smoke which often attacks light entering the retina. If cigarette smoke causes serious vision problems, medical treatment is surgery.

10. Psoriasis
Psoriasis is a chronic condition that most often causes thick and scaly patches on the skin, this condition usually occurs in the knees, elbows, scalp, hands, feet or back. Spots may be white, red, or silver. Recent studies show that the danger of nicotine from cigarettes has a greater risk of developing psoriasis.

11. The skin of the eye area is wrinkled
Everyone will have wrinkles on the outside of the eye as they age, but these wrinkles develop earlier and deeper in smokers. The heat from cigarettes and squinting to expel cigarette smoke from the eyes will cause the skin in the eyes to wrinkle. Meanwhile, chemicals from the effects of nicotine cause internal damage to the structure of the skin and blood vessels around the eyes.

12. Brittle bones
Everyone knows the lungs are damaged by the nicotine effect of smoking, but research shows surprising ways that tobacco affects other limbs, namely your bones. Smoking turns out to increase the risk of developing weak bones or osteoporosis. This condition increases the risk of fractures including the spine, which causes it to bend and make you bend.

12. Heart disease and erectile dysfunction (ED)
The effects of nicotine affect almost every organ in the body, including the heart. In people who smoke, arteries that carry blood to the heart become narrowed over time.

Smoking also increases blood pressure and makes it easier for the blood to clot. These factors increase the chance of having a heart attack. In men who smoke, a decrease in blood flow can cause impotence or erectile dysfunction (ED).

13. Reproductive problems
Women who smoke can cause difficulty getting pregnant and giving birth to healthy babies. Cigarettes related to fertility problems. The effects of nicotine from smoking during pregnancy also increase the likelihood of having a miscarriage, premature birth, or giving birth to a baby with a low birth weight.

14. Speed up menopause
This is the similarity that all women feel: menopause, the phase when a woman’s hormones decrease and the menstrual cycle stops forever. Most women experience this change around the age of 50 years. But the dangers of nicotine from smoking can cause menopause earlier on average 1 1/2 years, than women who don’t smoke. The effect is most powerful in women who have been smoking for years.

15. Oral cancer
Compared to passive smoking, people who smoke or use smokeless tobacco products are more likely to develop oral cancer. Smokers who are also heavy drinkers are 15 times more likely to develop this cancer. The most common symptoms are inflammation that aches on the tongue, lips, gums, or other areas of the mouth that don’t heal and may hurt. The easiest solution to avoid the danger of nicotine is to stop smoking, this can substantially reduce the risk of oral cancer in a few years.

16. Lung cancer
Lung cancer is the main male and female cancer killer. Those who died of the disease, 9 out of 10 deaths were caused by smoking. The danger of nicotine from cigarettes can also damage the lungs in other ways, making people more susceptible to respiratory problems and dangerous infections such as pneumonia.

Dangers of Nicotine in the Brain
Besides affecting body health, the danger of nicotine also causes damage to the brain. The brain consists of millions of neurons or cells that transmit information throughout the nervous system.

Between two neurons there are synapses, where information is transmitted. Neurons release chemicals called neurotransmitters that bind cells to other neurons to form a braid.

In the brain, the effect of nicotine binds itself to a subset of neurons that usually bind neurotransmitter acetylcholine. This ultimately prevents neurons from transmitting messages related to muscle movements and energy levels.

When nicotine blocks the receptor, the body releases more acetylcholine in an effort to find neuronal synapses.

Excess acetylcholine makes the brain release another neurotransmitter called dopamine which controls the center of pleasure or comfort in the brain. Increased levels of acetylcholine make people feel more alert, while an increase in dopamine makes a person feel relaxed.

High levels of acetylcholine and dopamine are signals for the brain to release endorphins and glutamate. Endorphins produce a feeling of pleasure or relaxation while glutamate records this relaxed sensation, thereby encouraging further use, which causes addiction to the danger of nicotine.

It turns out this is how tea is healthy for our blood vessels

Do you like to drink tea? One drink that has a delicious taste is indeed favored by many people. Fortunately, tea is also included in drinks that can provide a lot of positive effects on the health of the body. For example, tea is widely known to be able to nourish arteries. How do you do this drink?

Health experts say that tea can affect the endothelium, a layer that is in arteries that can affect the risk of various dangerous diseases such as stroke, heart disease, diabetes, cancer, and so on. The problem is, the endothelium will only function optimally until we are 30 years old. After that, the regeneration process will continue to decline and even worse if we pass 50 years. This will increase the risk of various dangerous diseases.

In a study conducted in China, it was stated that the habit of consuming pure green tea, not those that have been mixed with other ingredients such as sugar or milk, would significantly improve this endothelium function. In fact, this effect can be obtained half an hour after consuming tea. This effect is estimated to be from the flavonoids contained in tea leaves.

Another study conducted in the United Kingdom said that if we mix tea with other ingredients such as milk, we will not be able to get the health benefits of this tea even though both of these drinks are good for health. In fact, the risk for coronary heart disease can increase significantly.

Seeing this fact, consume tea frequently, especially green tea to make the blood vessels and heart become healthier. Only, make sure not to mix with other ingredients in order to get their health benefits.

Natural Remedies for Epilepsy Attacks

Do you have a friend who likes convulsions or momentarily dazed? caution and caution can always be frightening, Epilepsy is a disorder of the nervous system of the human brain due to excessive activity of a group of neuron cells in the brain causing various reactions in the human body ranging from momentary dumbfires, tingling, impaired consciousness, convulsions and / or muscle contractions. Epilepsy or what we often call ayan or sawan is not caused or triggered by bacteria or viruses and epilepsy symptoms can be muted with the help of people around the sufferer.

Epilepsy is a disease that can occur to anyone even though no one has ever experienced epilepsy from the bloodline, epilepsy cannot spread to other people because it is only a brain disorder that is not triggered by a viral and bacterial germ.

Here are the natural epilepsy drugs:

Peruvian Paprika or Peruvian Pepper (False Pepper)
Peruvian paprika is an herb that grows as a vine or vines, the leaves of this plant are very helpful for treating nerve-related problems such as epilepsy. Maybe you can try planting it to prevent epilepsy attacks naturally.

Flower Passionflower
Passionflower is part of herbal medicines intended to treat epilepsy in the past. This flower has a calming effect on your mind, therefore, this flower must be combined with other soothing herbs that have a major effect on epilepsy.
Magnesium
Magnesium deficiency is one of the main triggers of epilepsy. That’s why consuming foods that are rich in magnesium is one of the best natural remedies in dealing with seizures. For example, like dark green leafy vegetables.
Valerian
Valerian is one of the best herbal medicines that can be used to control epilepsy. This is a sedative herb that has an anti-seizure effect on the body, and is one of the best solutions to overcome seizures

How to Get Rid of Vaginal Odor Naturally

One of the problems commonly encountered by a woman is the vagina that emits an unpleasant aroma. This makes many women wonder how to get rid of odor in the vagina.

Keep in mind, odor in the vagina sometimes still appears even though it has often been cleaned. Usually the smelly vagina is caused by a combination of vaginal secretions, apocrine, accrine sweat, and external factors such as urine or feces.

How to remove odors in the vagina is appropriate to know, given the cleanliness and condition of a healthy and fragrant vagina also determines satisfaction during sexual intercourse.

At present, many special soap products for women can be used as a way to eliminate odors in miss v. However, you should also know first why the vagina can smell unpleasant before determining how to get rid of vaginal odor.

First, the vagina can smell strong because of consumption of certain foods. Consumption of foods with a pungent odor such as garlic can make urine excretion to smell and it will cause some further effects, namely the vagina becomes smelly.

In addition, the pungent odor in the vagina can also be caused by infection or venereal disease such as excessive vaginal discharge. In fact, underwear material that does not absorb sweat well and the use of excessive cleansing soap can also trigger the appearance of odors in the vagina.

List of Ways to Get Rid of Stinging Vaginal Smell
Although the risk of vaginal odor can be experienced by every woman, from now on you do not worry too much, because there are many ways to eliminate natural vaginal odor that can be done easily.

Here are some ways to get rid of miss v which you should know, including:

1. Eliminating the smell of Miss V with basil leaves
The first way to get rid of odor in the vagina is to use basil leaves. Basil leaves contain euganol which can kill germs and fungi that cause odor in the vagina.

In addition, the content of essential oils in basil is also able to scent the vagina. However, you should not use basil leaves like soap which is immediately rinsed in the vagina because it can make the vagina dry.

In order to get optimal results, basil leaves can be eaten directly or processed into drinks. As a treatment, the water from the collision of basil leaves can be consumed every day. After seeing positive results, you can consume basil juice every two weeks.

How to get rid of vaginal odor by using basil can be a powerful way for Miss V to be fragrant. However, basil is not recommended for gout sufferers because it can worsen the disease.

2. Overcoming Smelly Vagina using betel leaves
The second way to get rid of odor in the vagina is to use betel leaves. Betel leaf also contains euganol and antiseptics which are useful for disinfecting the cause of a pungent odor in the vagina. Processing betel leaves as an alternative way to overcome miss v odor is also very easy.

You only boil 5-10 betel leaves in 350 cc of water and leave it to half. Then rinse the vagina with boiled betel leaf water that is cold every morning and before going to bed.

Do how to remove vaginal odor with betel leaves 3 times a week to get a fragrant and rough vagina. Apart from being able to bring a positive effect, this method of eliminating odors from miss v also does not take as much cost as if you do special treatment for the vagina with certain drugs or ingredients.

How to get rid of vaginal odor with betel leaves has been known for generations. Betel leaf is also widely used as an active ingredient for vaginal cleansing soap, because using betel leaves can prove to be a powerful way to eliminate bad odors on miss v.

It’s just that, usually vaginal cleansing soap is also mixed with other fragrances such as the scent of flowers so that this soap can be an alternative way of eliminating odors on miss v which is more effective and fast.

Pandan leaves
The next way to eliminate vaginal odor is to use pandan leaves. You may have seen or used a lot of pandan leaves as an ingredient giving flavor and aroma to the cuisine. However, who would have thought that pandan leaves also keep hidden properties.

The use of pandan leaves can be a way of removing odors in the vagina. Pandan leaves also contain euganol and essential oils which can make the vagina more fragrant.

However, how to get rid of odor in the vagina with pandan leaves not by boiling and then used to wash the vagina, but processed into a drink.

The trick, take 10 pieces of pandan leaves that have been washed and stacked until smooth. Strain the smooth leaves to take the juice. Mix a little salt and one teaspoon of honey to make it more delicious. Drink pandanus juice every day before going to bed for two weeks. After obtaining the appropriate results, it is enough to consume 2-3 times a week.

Aloe vera
Who would have thought that using aloe vera could also be a powerful way to get rid of vaginal odor? How to get rid of the smell of miss v by using aloe vera is quite easy, but you still have to pay attention to the procedure.

The use of aloe vera to scent the vagina should not be immediately rinsed into the intimate organs because it can dry the vagina. Aloe vera should be processed into drinks.

How, mash the aloe vera that has been washed until smooth. Add a little honey to make it more delicious to drink. Drink every day for 2 weeks before going to bed. If you have the desired results, you can drink 2-3 times a week.

Well, that’s a variety of ways to get rid of natural vaginal odor that you can do. Good luck.

Causes of Late Menstruation and How to Overcome It

Late menstruation is always a question for many women. In general, a woman will have a normal cycle that ranges from 21 to 35 days. Menstruation is the monthly process of spilling the inner lining and blood of the uterus through the female genital or vaginal opening.

This discharge that contains blood occurs in women who have entered childbearing age and who are not pregnant. This event begins with the removal of the uterine mucous membrane in the inner uterus or endometrium.

Under the influence of the estrogen hormone, the endometrium also grows thicker, awaiting the arrival of the egg. It is like this thick layer of endometrium such as carpet or fertile soil that is ready to await the arrival of the egg. At the mid-peak of the optimal menstrual cycle, egg release occurs. Now, that’s when there are incoming sperm cells, these eggs and sperm unite into zygote (the fetus) and attach to the endometrics that have reached the maximum thickness earlier.

This process will repeat every month, as long as there is no fertilization that results in zygote. In time, new membranes grow again. In other words, the carpet was held again, then the date again, and so on.

Like menstruation that has a cycle, there is also a late period of menstruation that falls into the normal category and the period of menstruation is unnatural. You need to pay attention to the reasonable period of menstruation to find out if a woman who is often late for her period needs certain medical treatment related to her condition, or not.

This Is the Cause of Late Menstruation You Need to Know
So what are the causes of late arrivals that often occur? The causes can vary. For those who are still unmarried, the cause of frequent late menstruation can be due to being too tired. For example, studying too hard for those who are still in school or college, or exercising too much. The imbalance of hormones in the body can also cause adolescents to arrive late in the month. The phenomenon of late arrivals is often the case.

Conversely it can also often late menstruation occurs in those who used to exercise and stop their habits suddenly. Even eating patterns can affect the menstrual cycle. For example, those who used to eat a lot and suddenly on a diet. This will make the body stress. Or it could be a thin body becomes fat. Anyway, every time there is a striking change in body weight, it can make teens late in the month and this can also occur in adults.

Certain types of drugs can also interfere with menstrual patterns and make women often come late, especially drugs that contain hormones. For example, drugs to treat itching or earache medications. Likewise, KB drugs or injection of KB. Only after stopping taking medicine, menstruation will return smoothly.

Late menstruation is more often experienced by those who are still girls, because the pattern of ovulation is not regular. It’s just that, if you are accustomed to menstruation then there is no menstruation, you have to ask yourself. Don’t ever take certain medications that can trigger physiological effects so it’s often late to come.

What is the Deadline for Fair Menstruation?
So, menstruation is actually something normal, so that all women experience it. In every woman, this menstrual cycle also varies. The average distance is 28 days, late menstruation is 1 month, but it can also be up to 42 days. Even if there is a delay, the late menstrual limit that occurs such as 3-4 months, also need not worry too much. However, it is recommended that you keep checking with a specialist if you have experienced a period of menstruation until a matter of months. Especially if it’s late to 5-6 months. So for women who are often late for menstruation, it is recommended to pay attention to the normal limits of menstruation so that proper handling can be done.

Womenfolk often misunderstand, if they are often late for months ranging from 4 to 5 months, they think that their blood can gather inside, stagnate, and can be dangerous for long. Even if you don’t have menstruation, it means there is no bleeding in the body.

No menstruation means there is no loose endometrium. So that does not mean there is blood gathering. New blood comes out if the mucous membrane is released. If it’s not released, it’s not bleeding. So don’t worry if the period is still in a reasonable count.

Is Frequent Late Menstruation Causing Difficult Pregnancy?
Cases that need to be watched out are teenage girls who have not yet received their first period. Especially if he has reached the age of 17 years. If this happens, you should immediately do the examination. Because, it could be possible for the blood membrane to be tightly closed. Normally, the blood membrane has holes. If it is tightly closed, he may be able to menstruate, but his period cannot come out. Well, cases like this can cause the blood to collect inside.

For those who are married, often late menstruation can be caused by the possibility of just finished giving birth or breastfeeding. There is also the possibility of having an infection, including infectious diseases due to sex. For those over the age of 35 years, also must be aware of the presence of ovarian tumors if the late menstrual limit has exceeded the normal menstrual limit or too long.

There are also women who experience bleeding between two periods. If this happens, you should immediately check it out. Bleeding that occurs with a cycle of less than 21 days is clearly not normal, especially for those who are no longer girls. For those who are under the age of 20, it may only be due to hormonal disorders.

Is it true that irregular menstruation or frequent menstruation is difficult to have children? This view is not always right. But it often happens, female patients want to have children but irregular menstruation to reach the late menstrual limit is too long. Then he came to the doctor, asking for regular menstruation so that he could have children. This is not always possible. Difficult to have children does not always correlate with menstrual cycles or late menstrual cycles, especially if women who are often late in menstruation are still within the normal menstrual limit.

Some cases of irregular menstruation can be overcome by living a regular lifestyle. For those who experience late menstrual irregularities or limits that are too long suddenly, you should not stress, not smoke, let alone drink alcoholic beverages.

Eat, work, and sleep should be regular. Often people forget to rest. I want to work continuously by ignoring a tired body. So, many ways to deal with late menstruation 4 months to 6 months such as good stress management and do not force yourself to work too hard. In addition, keep eating patterns can also be a way to overcome late menstruation 4 months, 6 months, or less than that.

However, there are also those who experience menstrual irregularities from the start. Those who experience something like this need to consult a specialist. For example menstruation that comes only 4 months since the beginning of the first menstruation. Another suggestion is not to take drugs at random. Also, make it a habit to regularly come to the obstetrician. There could be a danger of not having menstruation for 6 months because of a serious illness. Visiting a doctor will make you get the right treatment so that your period becomes smooth.

Symptoms of Late Coming and Handling
In addition to irregular menstruation, another thing that often disturbs women is pain before menstruation or during menstruation. It feels like heartburn mixed with cramps when blood is coming out. This pain is something natural, because the uterine wall is currently contracting or contracting to remove blood clots.

This pain is more pronounced in women who have never given birth. Because the cervix is still small, so it feels like someone is giving birth. This is also something normal. Except for women who are very sensitive, the taste can be very painful. However, usually after marriage and having children, this will disappear.

However, if the pain is severe and prolonged, it needs to be aware of the possibility of suffering from endometriosis. In this case, the inner cells of the uterus grow not in the womb, but also outside. For example, in the ovary or fallopian tubes that are very painful.

If the pain before menstruation is so intense that it feels disabling, you should immediately see a doctor. Especially for those who have intercourse, because it might be a symptom of infection. Well, if there is an attachment to the internal genital organs resulting from the infection, the impact can make it difficult to have children.

Dizziness that accompanies menstruation is also a natural thing. The reason is, women who approach menstruation usually do experience pre-menstrual tension or tension before menstruation. The effects include feeling depressed, spotty, breast tenderness, saccharine pain, stomach feels bloated, swollen, there is pain. So, it becomes easier to get angry or vice versa and other emotional changes.

All of that, is natural and harmless. To reduce this uncomfortable condition, it is recommended to reduce foods that contain lots of salt, flavorings, or too much oil. Expand to eat fruits and vegetables, enough foods that contain oil. Expand to eat fruits and vegetables, enough foods that contain carbohydrates and high in fiber.

Do Men Have Fertility Like Women?

During this time we only know that the fertile period is only owned by women. When a woman’s fertile period has sex with her partner, the chances of getting a pregnancy are very large. This can happen because when the fertile period of a woman’s body releases the egg to the uterine wall so that it is easily fertilized by sperm.

Well, besides women, men also have a fertile period. However, the fertile period of men is slightly different from women and is influenced by many aspects, along with the reviews.

When does a man’s fertile period come?
The fertile period of men runs every time starting from they experience puberty during adolescence to old age. In contrast to women who are fertile for only a few days, the fertile period of men every day until the body is unable to produce good quality sperm and is able to fertilize the egg.

So, a man’s fertile period occurs at any time, but must have several criteria. First, the volume of semen containing sperm cells must be large. At least in one ejaculation there are more than 15 million sperm cells per milliliter.

Furthermore, the movement of sperm must also be agile so that it is easy to reach the egg and fertilize it. Finally, sperm also has a normal structure from head to tail. If the sperm has an abnormality, fertilization cannot run smoothly.

Which affects the fertile period of men
Which affects the fertile period of men there are also many, following the list.

Lifestyle. Men with healthy lifestyles will have a longer fertile period than those whose lives are not healthy.
Men’s age also affects sperm production and quality.
Temperature and radiation. In order for the testicles to stay healthy and be able to produce sufficient amounts of sperm, the temperature inside the panties must be 1-2 degrees cooler than body temperature. Furthermore, if the testicles are exposed to chemicals, the possibility of abnormal sperm being large enough.
Sexually transmitted disease. Men who are healthy and PMS-free tend to have better sperm.